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[MINI FAQ] Do I have to be a woman to participate here? What about the subreddit name? What about trans women? What are the rules, anyway?

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Do I have to be a woman to participate in this community?

No. Any user who can follow the rules is welcome here. Women, men, nonbinary, agender, genderqueer, cis folks and trans folks, everybody. If you're not on board with that, you can fuck right off.

But what about the subreddit name?

Read this post from when 2XC was only a month old. We haven't changed our stance since then, and never will.

What about trans women?

Trans women are women. TERFS can fuck right off.

What are the rules, anyway?

TL;DR: Keep it civil, keep it relevant. Don't start shit, won't be shit.

You can find the rules in the sidebar (community info for mobile users), or here's a direct link: 2XC Rules

Most moderator actions are the result of users breaking Rule 1: RESPECT. If you keep Wheaton's Law* in mind and participate in good faith, you'll probably never hear from the mod team.

  

*Wheaton's Law: Don't be a dick.


For more in-depth interpretations of the rules above, see the 2XC FAQ and 2XC Moderation Policy.


r/TwoXChromosomes 8h ago Hugz All-Seeing Upvote

Support | Trigger /r/all I am enraged. I was sexually assaulted by a paramedic. Yes that's right. (TW)

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Last night I was the victim of abuse by a paramedic in the ambulance on the way to the hospital. I have frequent non-epileptic seizures as part of PTSD, which in consequence brings a lot of contact with emergency services, not voluntarily from my side, always called by passerby. This time was not different.
There are always two paramedics per vehicle. On the go it leaves just one paramedic with the patient.
This dirty fucker thought I was unconscious, even though I was lucid and aware of my surroundings, just not in control over my body. He grabbed the opportunity to take off my shirt and touched and felt up my breast for the whole ride. Just when we stopped he hastily put my top back in place.
I am still in schock and unable to really process what happened. How can somebody so shamelessly take advantage of a situation like that, someone who has the responsibility to keep people safe? I am feeling so much anger and violation at the same time.
I'll go to a consulting service for sexual assault against women to press charges in an hopefully effective way. I feel responsible for all that are put into his hands and it got to my knowledge that it was his first shift that night. Anxious to have to go through all this , but I know I am stronger than that, I'll come out of it.
My heart goes out to each and everyone of us that has to deal with this kinda hardship.


r/TwoXChromosomes 3h ago

A woman was shot dead by her co worker, in November after she repeatedly rejected his romantic advances. And then people complain that women are "overreacting" when we take measures when a man approaches us in the public.

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r/TwoXChromosomes 10h ago

Women have trouble dating because they look for a man who treats them as a fully equal human being whereas men have trouble dating because they look for a submissive woman who won‘t challenge their ego

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Of course not all men, and not all women!

However, it‘s a phenomenon that is far more prevalent than people like to admit and needs to be addressed more seriously.

As a woman, it‘s difficult to find a partner with whom you don’t have to compromise even the tiniest bit of your women/human rights, which is why so many women nowadays refrain from dating and romantic relationships.

On the other side, you see lots of men who complain about this very fact, however, these very same men are those who desire a woman who tolerates their casual misogyny and aligns with patriarchial roles and beliefs.

Single women are much happier than single men on average, and the solution certainly isn’t that women sacrifice it, but that the problem above is identified and dismantled.


r/TwoXChromosomes 4h ago

Anti-abortion group "The Church at Planned Parenthood" must pay $850,000 to Planned Parenthood over noise violations. The church was founded by Covenant Church, where former state Rep Matt Shea was a pastor. Shea is a violent Christian Nationalist who wants all non-Christians to be killed.

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r/TwoXChromosomes 21h ago

Today I got called a Karen for asking someone not to speak to or film my students.

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Quick edit: I have to delete the details of this for the sake of my anonymity & my students. I appreciate all the support and the discussion. His reaction rubbed me the wrong way, it’s a relief to get the chance to talk about it.

I also want to go ahead and link this comment chain to let y’all know there really are some people out here who’d bend over backwards to defend creeps recording kids. Cheers!


r/TwoXChromosomes 11h ago

What's with Reddits hate boner for women?

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Something I noticed years ago when I first joined Reddit was any video of a man assaulting a woman, whether it was in self defence or uncalled for, the comments are filled with "Equal rights equal lefts" and demonizing women for wanting to be treated equally.

I mean, this is hardly surprising considering most of the users on Reddit are sad little men who are angry that women aren't trapped in the 1960s, but still disgusting.

One thing that I saw just today though really pissed me off. It was the video that's been circulating of that teacher that physically assaulted a student for calling him the N word. I mean, it's a hellish situation for a teacher to be put in, because there's very little they can actually do, but physical violence is never the answer, and especially not when you're in that role around children.

For once, the comments weren't entirely filled with people all cheering the violence on, most people were saying that he overreacted and you shouldn't be a teacher if you're going to snap and physically assault the kids. I completely agree.

This has been a pattern in a lot of videos where men assault boys or other men, the comments generally don't condone it.

But when it comes to women? Oh no, bitch deserved it. Equal rights equal lefts. Somehow, it's the woman's fault and she deserves to be punched and smacked and physically beaten. It's "cathartic"

Why is it that men aren't ok with unnecessary violence against men, but when it comes to women that's just fantastic?

Like this video I saw ages ago, was this group of 11 year old (you can tell theyre kids too, didn't need to read a news article to see they werent grown ups) girls being delinquents outside this shopping mall, and one of the girls tries to start shit with a 50something year old man, twice her size and 10 × stronger than her, and she goes to shove him and like a totally reasonable adult he smashes her in the head and knocks her clean out. She could have gotten brain damage from that. From trying to shove him.

I get self defence, but men need to realise when they're that much stronger than someone, they need to restrain themselves from going all out.

ALL of the comments on that were literally calling her a bitch, saying it was a good thing and condoning the violence. And the beloved "EQUAL RIGHTS EQUAL LEFTS"

Edit: Thanks for the concern from the triggered pile of dirty wet socks that reported me to the Reddit care team. I'm doing quite well, unlike yourself :)


r/TwoXChromosomes 5h ago

Medicine needs to apologize to women.

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They did it in the UK and Ireland. This is a small step in the positive direction.

"The UK government at least conducted a national survey to learn about women's experiences with their medical care:

https://www.gov.uk/government/consultations/womens-health-strategy-call-for-evidence/outcome/results-of-the-womens-health-lets-talk-about-it-survey

And the government at least did something:

https://www.marieclaire.co.uk/life/health-fitness/womens-health-strategy-uk-789342

No woman i know has ever gotten a survey about improving the US medical system. "

Credit goes to a NY Times commenter.


r/TwoXChromosomes 4h ago

Church Ordered to Pay Planned Parenthood Almost $1M Over Protest

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r/TwoXChromosomes 1d ago

Charged $249 for a pregnancy test at the hospital

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First, I’ve never posted in this sub before. I suppose I’m just putting my experience out there? I already messaged the hospital to say I’m not paying for that test.

Picture it: there I am, at the hospital bright and early to see if POTS is the reason I’ve been collapsing randomly. They tell me my appointment starts at 8 but to arrive at 7. They tell me I have blood work to be done. I figure ah that makes sense, it’s probably whatever panel shows iron levels right? Or some other blood flow related concern. I do the bloodwork, and several minutes later I get the results… No pregnancy detected!

Had I known it was a pregnancy test, I would have refused the blood work. It seems sneaky to me that they performed it this way, but also good grief that’s about $248 more expensive than the urine tests at Walmart.


r/TwoXChromosomes 1d ago Dread

Florida weighs mandating menstrual cycle details for female athletes

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r/TwoXChromosomes 4h ago

Support | Trigger Guy says "I can see that" when I told him I was raped

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Um

What the hell does that even mean?

Is that supposed to make me feel better?? Did you just consider it??

Why do men have no tact about these things


r/TwoXChromosomes 2h ago

Evangelical Christian woman neglects medical attention and her baby dies

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I came on here to vent about a situation of a couple that my boyfriend knows that makes me so fucking angry. My boyfriends childhood friend ended up marrying a very religious Christian girl. A little back story, let’s call my boyfriends childhood friend Dan. Dan went through a period of time a few years ago experimenting with his sexuality and had relationships with a couple guys. When he met this religious girl, let’s call her Brittany, when he met Brittany she told him that he could go to a conversion church to “pray the gay away”. Which he ended up doing.

Now years later, Dan and Brittany are married and are both very religious, “living the life that god wanted.” Dan ended up losing a lot of his friends because he started being very outspoken about his religion. And specifically my boyfriend who is the least bit religious, wanted nothing to do with him because he would try and preach to my boyfriend. Now they end up getting pregnant and Brittany wants to have a natural birth. Now I don’t know these people personally so I don’t know the extent of what happened during her pregnancy, however I do know what happened as a result of it. the babies due date was some time late December but Brittany never went into labor, whether she had a midwife or doula, I don’t know. But I do know she refused medical attention because she wanted to have a natural birth. (I am pro natural birth, I think every woman has a choice to how they want to give birth) however I do know there are times when a natural birth doesn’t go the way the mother intends and sometimes lead to going to the hospital for the safety of the mother and child. But Brittany refused any medical attention because it’s “not what god would want”. She ended up giving birth a MONTH after her due date and her baby ended up only living for two hours. Her baby died because of her neglect. And this makes me so angry because these are the types of people who would tell you you’re an abomination for having an abortion. And preach about “late term abortions” which don’t even exist. And now all she is saying is that this was gods plan. She neglected her child in the womb and is claiming it was “gods plan”. But really she just refused medical attention because she wanted to birth naturally. This makes me so fucking angry because I believe a woman has a choice to do what she wants with her body, whether to have an abortion or not but this is pure neglect and DENIAL. She neglected her child in the womb and is blaming god for what happened. And she’d be the first person to tell you that having an abortion is wrong. How is this any better?? They hypocrisy boggles my brain!!! I just can’t wrap my head around it. Now my boyfriend is attending the funeral of an infant today.


r/TwoXChromosomes 20h ago

"I don't have time for hobbies with 3 kids at home."

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This was shared by a husband quoting his wife in a gaming discord I'm apart of, and it was shared with a "😂" emoji, as if telling the world that his wife is too busy raising children while he can game and chat with friends is just a funny anecdote from his life. It rattles in my mind every now and then because I can only imagine the disparity between responsibility and care if you think your wife admitting she can't focus on any intimate, personal interests because she has CHILDREN is fine, or even normal. Child-rearing is a full time job, and if your lousy spouse doesn't balance that with you so that you BOTH can enjoy hobbies and free time, he is failing you. I'm sick of Fathers being Fathers in title only.


r/TwoXChromosomes 3h ago

Is anyone else very resistant to the idea of marriage?

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I would love to have a long term partner. But I do not like the idea of financially binding myself to another individual for the rest of my life. I'm curious if any of you ladies here have serious reservations regarding marriage?


r/TwoXChromosomes 16h ago

Men don't understand our jokes and then assume we are either stupid, entitled, misandrist, etc.

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I've noticed this phenomenon all over reddit. Men will post a TikTok where a woman is clearly making a satiristic joke as part of a trend (such as the ongoing Black History Month memes, or the text posts about men not understanding niche music, etc.) and not understand that its a joke and then just jump to the conclusion that are women are stupid, entitled, reverse racist, misandrist or something else. If someone tries to inform them it is satire or a joke, they simply won't believe you.

This is particularly in regard to young women or teenage girls since they are especially hated and mocked. That's probably why men think women aren't funny, they refuse to accept it when we're joking or try to understand our communication pattern.


r/TwoXChromosomes 5h ago

Gaslighting can happen online, I guess

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I posted in AITA today about a new neighbor being a peeping tom. I wanted to know if I would be TA for filing a police report, because he may be a Ukrainian refugee.

Long story short, he knocked on my door and then immediately put his nose up against my window and stared at me. I was in my underwear, so I screamed and ran to the other room. He STAYED THERE, staring into my apartment for a solid 5 minutes. Did not budge.

I can not tell you how many people were questioning me about him being an actual peeping tom. There’s no doubt in my mind that it wasn’t his initial intention, since he did knock, but the line crossed to peeping when he KEPT STARING at me in my underwear, and into my apartment for an extended period of time.

“Are you sure he actually saw you?” “How do you know he stayed there if you were in the other room” “Its your fault for leaving the blinds open” “He was probably waiting for you to come back and answer the door”

What the fuck? I wasn’t asking if he was peeping. He was. He crossed the line to peeping when he wouldn’t pull his nose away from the glass for 5 whole minutes.

I was asking if I’d be an AH for reporting him because of his situation as a refugee. I will be reporting him now, at the very least to the leasing office.

Gotta love victim blaming and gaslighting.


r/TwoXChromosomes 2h ago

Nail salons hate short nails

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They just filed my actual skin down because “it needs to look perfect” and “it’s too short, it doesn’t look right.”

My comfort matters more than anything, I told her I wouldn’t share the nails anywhere and that she was actually hurting me. I didn’t pay for a spa treatment to feel pain lol. Screw these places man it’s not a “spa.”


r/TwoXChromosomes 1d ago

women with "streets smarts" what your most street tip?

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r/TwoXChromosomes 12h ago

my dads a misogynist and i don’t know what to do

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i try educating him on everything women face but i don’t think he’ll ever understand. i love my dad but every time he talks about women i feel sick and i don’t want to be around him. he’s been like this since he got a divorce with my mom. he watches andrew tate and even after i gave him video evidence that andrew tate is very likely to be participating in illegal activities he said he wants to wait for the court to decide. i tried to explain to him that the misogynistic “jokes” that andrew tate makes are harmful because young boys believe in every word he says and use his words to fuel their hate against women. i told him that these boys are going to be the men my sister and i marry. i tried to get my grandma to help but he doesn’t listen to her, and the other day he told me that he’s starting to hate women. if anyone has any advice or anything, i would really appreciate it.


r/TwoXChromosomes 20h ago

Why do so many men bring up male hardships when female hardships are being discussed?

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I'm pretty sure men create both male and female hardships because they hold the majority of the power. If women held the majority of the power, I would understand why men bring up male hardships on discussions about women wherever they could.

I'm just confused as to why most men don't understand that, by being the power majority, they should fight for sex equality and reforms for job safety and ways to end wars. Most jobs men claim harm them were created by them, not women. Am I crazy?


r/TwoXChromosomes 10h ago

Do "street smart" or safety tips make you sad?

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Not wanting to detract from the tips threat at all, which I'm reading with interest.

But does it make anyone else feel terribly sad/depressed that you can't walk outside and be unguarded, smile, close your eyes with the sun on your face?

It's so unfair that you have to put on a "bitch face", which I think studies have said, smiling/frowning can influence your mood, keep your eyes ahead and not look around (what's the point of being outside then?) and rush to your destination. :(

I'm not blaming the tips, I've experienced what happens if you let your guard down (mugged/verbally abused etc) it's just so wearying.


r/TwoXChromosomes 2h ago

Women’s safety must be considered in new efforts to boost walking and cycling

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r/TwoXChromosomes 1h ago

My boss won't let me post anything for black history month

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I'm a social media director for a well known tech company. I basically call the shots for what goes on our social media pages and make sure out content is engaging and eye catchy for the millions of people that will be seeing them. For the month of February I wanted to have a campaign around black history month and had the contents and planning ready since the middle of January.

Everything was going smoothly until my boss asked me what my plans for this months social media campaign was. I told him my plans and he flat out told me that I cannot post anything about black history month. I thought I misheard him at first. I asked him if he could repeat himself and to my surprise he said it again. I was in disbelief. This comes as a bigger shock to me since he's never flat out denied something from me before and was always happy about what I had in the plans for the month.

I went back to him on Friday about this before the weekend and had a lengthy conversation regarding the topic (how I had this planned for several weeks, how it's immoral to not let me talk about a crucial month for black people). He kept telling me no and his reasons had to do about not wanting to be political and none sense like that. Mind you he is a rich middle aged white man so he probably doesn't understand the importance of this month and I did try explaining this to him, but it wasn't getting to him.

What should I do in this situation? I had this planned for weeks now and it's going to be very difficult to play catch up to plan out the campaign for February with the month already here. I'm just lost and hurt.


r/TwoXChromosomes 1d ago

What is up with men in general?

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Obligatory not all men. But, how are these man children getting married? How? Every single day I browse Reddit and I see an “An I the asshole” post about a woman upset that her partner will not clean up after himself, not get her gifts, have terrible sex, and just generally don’t care about fulfilling their needs.

I mean I just saw a post about a women upset that her husband doesn’t get her gifts she wants, instead gets her a plate and a crappy book and complains about her very reasonable gift list when confronted. Then I see in the comments about other women commiserating with her.

And it’s not just Reddit, I see jokes about “useless” husbands on tik tok and instagram and women in the comments just saying, “haha”.

Then you have women on the internet competing about how they don’t need gifts or affection! Because they’re sooo low maintenance! (Which nothing wrong with a low maintenance women). We should all strive to be high maintenance! I’m not talking materialistic but in affection and love.

And it’s not just on the internet, I know women in real life that settle for these men while they have absolutely no reason to be settling.

And I understand relationships are hard and everyone does them differently but just the level of disrespect in some people’s relationships and it’s supposed to be “normal”.

I’m just ranting and I’m not sure where I’m going with this but as a women, we have so much to offer to the world! And idk I guess seeing that post when I woke up just upset me.